After the Affair.....What's Next?

After the affair, what's next. At the lowest point of our marriage journey, my husband came close to shooting me in the head when he discovered that I was having an affair. The grace of God's love covered us in that dreadful moment. We had both crossed the line and done the perceivably unforgivable. Pretending to be the perfect married couple while we both were too insecure and afraid to even love full out. Are you loving full out? Do you know who your spouse really is? If you are refusing to give 100% of yourself to the other person, I can guarantee they aren't giving you 100% either. It's the law of attraction. What you put out is what you get back. Both of you are in protection mode refusing to give up control and be vulnerable. Vulnerability had always been on lock in my heart, but when I saw my life ending the same way my mother was going to end her life over an affair twenty years prior, God showed me the true meaning of vulnerability and how I wasted so much time to running from it. Embracing vulnerability is the key to having a long standing healthy and beautiful relationship. Without it your marriage will fail or you will both keep pretending, never knowing the pure joy of love when coupled with the big "V."